Finding your Soulmate

 

When will I find my soul mate?
This is a question which is often asked.

What is meant by soul mate? Actually, a soul realized is complete in itself and has no need for the other. This term we use soul mate is really code words, which signify our deep desire to find a loving and fulfilling life-mate.

The problem using the words soul mate is that it also has the connotation of perfect and finding the one-and-only. This is unrealistic. This sets you up to finding someone who cannot live up to those unreal expectations and then leads to disappointment and dissatisfaction. Of course, then you need to go out and start all over again to find your new soul mate your newest one-and-only. The good news for you is that it is much more realistic (and easier) to find the right man/women that can bring you those qualities that provide a loving and completely satisfying relationship for life a life-mate.

It is important to know for yourself what is it you want in a relationship. When I say you, I mean on all levels; from the mental, emotional and to the spiritual what is it you truly want in a fulfilling relationship? What are the qualities in a man/women that you are looking for, and that are compatible to yours?

It is necessary to have similar interests and values as this provides a foundation to grow on. Ask yourself what are your priorities in a relationship (and life); measure them on a scale of one to ten, such things as communication, monogamy, commitment, children, spiritual path, and financial needs & values, etc. It is important to crystallize in your mind what it is you want and write it down, this helps to manifest it. The when you meet a man/women you are clear in what you want and will know within a short time whether he/she is compatible and has the potential for a rewarding life long relationship. Existence has many variables when it comes to relationships, there are many beautiful persons in the world that we could have a life-mate relationship with. A relationship is what we make it.

I see relationships as a classroom in our lives to learn about love and intimacy. Frequent and frank communication is an essential cornerstone in this relationship building process. (Yes, we all know this and yet this continues to be the most forgotten item among the thousands of people I have worked with, Emerson said, (People are more to be reminded than taught.)

We need to wake up out of the dream that the other has the sole responsibility to make us feel whole, to complete us and to fulfill our dreams. In a life-mate connection we open our hearts and surrender to love and in doing so we surrender the ego so that we can meet the other at a deep level. We let another touch us at the core of who we are and this allows intimacy to develop and grow.

Marriage – There is a tremendous desire and longing for love,
But that love needs great awareness.
Only then can it reach to it’s highest climax And that climax is Marriage.
Marriage is the merging of two hearts into totality.
It is the functioning of two persons in synchronicity. THAT IS MARRIAGE 
by “Osho”

Heart Meditation (10 minutes)

Play some heartfelt music and sit across from each other, knees slightly touching and holding hands. Then, take a deep breath into the belly, on the exhalation release and let go of any tension. Repeat two more times. Next, focusing on the heart center, place one hand on your heart, breathe slowly and softly. Visualize a color of healing (green or pink), breath this into the heart, feeling the heart expanding. Be aware of bringing your total awareness to your heart. Look into each other’s eyes, you-entering into your beloved and your beloved entering into you. No talking, no distractions; just allowing the feelings to be present, whatever they are. Soft focusing of your eyes seeing into one another. Allowing the energies to flow back and forth between your hearts. At the end of this meditation give your beloved a hug, remain in the heart space, and then share your experiences.

Love brings freedom. Loyalty brings slavery.
On the surface they look alike, deep down, they are just the opposite.
Loyalty is acting; you have been educated for it.
Love is wild; its whole beauty is in its wildness.
It comes like a breeze with great fragrance, fills your heart,
and suddenly where there was a desert there is a garden full of flowers.
by “Osho”

Nirup, is a Psychic, Spiritual Counselor, Relationship Counselor, and Past Life Regression Therapist. She has been guiding others on their life’s path since 1990. Visit Nirup in Sedona Arizona, for an in person reading or call for a phone session at 928-203-0749 or 928-300-8338.